When anyone is turned down from something they tried to obtain, either by working hard or not so hard, it really sucks (excuse my language, but it really sucks). You begin to question your worth. You ask questions like, What did I do wrong? What could I have done better? What did someone else do better than me? How far is this going to set me back? And if you tried your hardest, you wonder if you are going to be good enough for anything. Most of your thoughts are negative, and you are down for hours, possibly days or weeks.
Not many people, if not anyone, initially considers the fact that it worked out for the best. (Screw that! You worked hard, you should get rewarded!) Maybe next time you are rejected for the one thing you wanted most (at the time), you should consider that it was not what your life needed at the time. You should consider that maybe it wasn't for you. Maybe you need to work out personal issues before your life can experience the thing you wanted the most.
Considering the positives are not always easy. Trust me, it takes me a while before I can see the positives. But life will work a little better for you once you realize that whatever is supposed to happen, will happen when it's supposed to happen.
Last week I mentioned that I had auditioned for a band, and had the chance to rehearse and sing with them. After the fact, I worried for days that I was not what they wanted, and started beating myself up about it. Finally I thought to myself, whatever happens happens. I don't need everything that I want. Sometimes I find that the very moment you let things go, that you leave your worries and fears at the door, things come to you. It may not be exactly what you want (it could even be something better!), but it's something.
Yesterday, I was hired for the band I auditioned for. I'm in! And I am really excited.
Okay, so the title and first few paragraphs lead on to the fact that I didn't make it, but these past few weeks, I was really struggling with these views, and really thought I would experience rejection. Let's face it though, there will still be many times in my life where I will experience the pain of rejection, many times I have experienced the pain of rejection. Sometimes you just have to let things go, leave your worries and fears at the door. The very thing you least expect will come knocking!